What do you do for someone going through something as hard as breast cancer or infant loss?
As we reach the conclusion of Breast Cancer and Infant Loss Awareness month, we wanted to share with you some dos and don’ts when it comes to being there for someone going through it.
Both are a loss of something that could be.
Today, we’re focusing on the loss of unborn babies and how to support their mammas.
With a miscarriage, they didn’t even get to know their baby’s giggle or personality outside the womb. It’s a different kind of grief, so here are some things you don’t want to say.
– It was God’s plan – God doesn’t plan for you to get your hopes up and fall in love just for it to be taken away again. That doesn’t feel good, so don’t say that.
– It wasn’t really a pregnancy or it was a chemical pregnancy – It was a baby. A true, beloved baby.
– Asking them a lot of questions or expecting them to make even the simplest decisions. There’s a ton going on emotionally and mentally. Give them the grace to share as they see fit.
How CAN you support them?
Instead of asking them to make small decisions, send them something you think they’ll like through DoorDash. This gives them privacy while also feeding them and their family, taking some of the load off of them.
Let them know that their baby felt loved by them every second they existed. Remind them that they loved them so well.
Lastly, if you are someone who has gone through a miscarriage, talk about it. Share about it. Give others the go-ahead to talk about it too by letting others see you through this experience.
As always, never forget to pray for one another.
