When you pictured your life with kids, did you picture….no money, no sex, and no time?
Maintaining a marriage with a baby & kids takes a LOT of time and energy – which are exactly what you don’t have a lot of right now.
You like sex…but right now you just like sleeping more…
You are exhausted, covered in drool & haven’t showered in days.
Your partner has somehow transformed into Super Dad which has made you fall even MORE in love, but you just aren’t in the mood for sexy time…..yet.
It’s time to GET IN THE MOOD.
Plan time for sex.
Just because you are married, doesn’t mean you can’t make a hot date for it.
Baby-free the room on date night.
Send the kids to the in-law’s house and clear the room of ANYTHING baby.
You don’t want to be mid-makeout, rolling on the bed and a toy duck starts singing Old McDonald…
Here are some tips to get started:
Set a reminder – calendars might sound like a real mood killer BUT you can’t always rely on being spontaneous, especially with a house full of kids. PLUS it builds anticipation
Work together – your post-baby sex drive will be naturally low because of hormonal changes and lack of sleep. Be honest with each other. Ask your partner to be your personal cheerleader; to tell you you are beautiful even when your breasts are leaking and you are on day 4 of the same pajama pants.
Build desire – women need about 20 minutes to get heated up and increasing desire SLOWLY helps make sex more pleasurable. Your body has changed after the baby so don’t be afraid to test the waters on your own first!
HOTEL SEX – research has shown that when couples get out of their house, they enjoy sex MORE because they aren’t thinking about chores or to-do lists. Once your baby is comfortable with overnight stays, try and pick one Saturday a month and book a hotel for just the two of you.
How do YOU and YOUR PARTNER build intimacy around your family life?